Lena Horne, An Original QueenIt was my birthday last Friday March 7th and when I woke up on that glorious day, something clicked and I absolutely fell in love… with myself.
Not to sound too narcissistic or anything, it wasn’t like all of a sudden I woke up and ordered a turbo charged Rabbit (not that there’s anything wrong with that), I just began to appreciate all the wonderful qualities and experiences that have added up to this moment in time of me being me. I must say though, much of my road to self-acceptance has been paved in the uncertainty of if it is indeed okay to be in love with yourself.
From the beginning of time confident woman have been associated with all sort of things: witches, heifers, c*nts, b*tches. A young girl who is beginning to appreciate the way her features are coming together is quickly regarded as conceited; a girl with a youthful interest in learning and reading will be cast aside as a nerd; A girl who shows interest in sports is regarded as a “dike” and a young girl with an over-all healthy appreciation of herself is accused of the kiss of death: Thinking she’s all that.
Let me take this time to put this disclaimer on my text: I am not trying to insight a riot. I understand that as woman are battling out our own worth in this ever changing world, so are men. As long as everyone is seeking to learn, grow and love, the world will be a better place. But facts are facts: Barack Obama is considered young at 44! A man is considered to age like fine wine, his salt and peppered hair sexy, while a woman will cover her grey’s and hide her age as if we age like moldy cheese! Here’s the rub, men are said to reach their sexual peak at between 18-23, while woman are rumored to peak at 35-40! Hmm, sounds like somebody’s cheese is going to mold much quicker than mine.
In men’s defense, I did recently read an article by The Advice Diva that said a woman’s sexual peak isn’t so much a reflection of hormones as it is a woman’s confidence and the comfort level with her body associated with that self-acceptance. You mean to tell me that girls are put through hoola-hoops of self-discovery all the way up to their mid-thirties? Shoot, by the time its okay to love ourselves society starts telling us we’re getting too old to enjoy it!
It seems to be a conspiracy to slay the Goddess! Well I for one say “Hell no, we won’t go!
I use the terms Goddess and Queen interchangeably, but let me give you a definition for both:
Goddess: A female being of supernatural powers or attributes, believed in and worshiped by a people.
Queen: A woman eminent in power or attractions; the highest of her kind
Literary Goddess and New York Times Best selling Author Marianne Williamson put’s it best when she says:
Not to sound too narcissistic or anything, it wasn’t like all of a sudden I woke up and ordered a turbo charged Rabbit (not that there’s anything wrong with that), I just began to appreciate all the wonderful qualities and experiences that have added up to this moment in time of me being me. I must say though, much of my road to self-acceptance has been paved in the uncertainty of if it is indeed okay to be in love with yourself.
From the beginning of time confident woman have been associated with all sort of things: witches, heifers, c*nts, b*tches. A young girl who is beginning to appreciate the way her features are coming together is quickly regarded as conceited; a girl with a youthful interest in learning and reading will be cast aside as a nerd; A girl who shows interest in sports is regarded as a “dike” and a young girl with an over-all healthy appreciation of herself is accused of the kiss of death: Thinking she’s all that.
Let me take this time to put this disclaimer on my text: I am not trying to insight a riot. I understand that as woman are battling out our own worth in this ever changing world, so are men. As long as everyone is seeking to learn, grow and love, the world will be a better place. But facts are facts: Barack Obama is considered young at 44! A man is considered to age like fine wine, his salt and peppered hair sexy, while a woman will cover her grey’s and hide her age as if we age like moldy cheese! Here’s the rub, men are said to reach their sexual peak at between 18-23, while woman are rumored to peak at 35-40! Hmm, sounds like somebody’s cheese is going to mold much quicker than mine.
In men’s defense, I did recently read an article by The Advice Diva that said a woman’s sexual peak isn’t so much a reflection of hormones as it is a woman’s confidence and the comfort level with her body associated with that self-acceptance. You mean to tell me that girls are put through hoola-hoops of self-discovery all the way up to their mid-thirties? Shoot, by the time its okay to love ourselves society starts telling us we’re getting too old to enjoy it!
It seems to be a conspiracy to slay the Goddess! Well I for one say “Hell no, we won’t go!
I use the terms Goddess and Queen interchangeably, but let me give you a definition for both:
Goddess: A female being of supernatural powers or attributes, believed in and worshiped by a people.
Queen: A woman eminent in power or attractions; the highest of her kind
Literary Goddess and New York Times Best selling Author Marianne Williamson put’s it best when she says:
“A queen is wise. She has earned her serenity, not having it bestowed on her but having past her tests. She has suffered and grown more beautiful because of it. She has proven she can hold her kingdom together. She has become its vision. She cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She rules with authentic power”
Now, that deserves an Amen!
I know that I have many lessons to learn before I can rightfully take hold of my Queendom, but one truth I have fully embraced: It’s magnificent to be a woman and grow into my womanhood! And I think it’s absolutely FABULOUS when organizations decide to make it their Cause to take a young girl by the pre-manicured-pubescent-princess hand and help to usher her to her throne, which brings me to my next Cause Fabulous WriteGirl!
WriteGirl’s mission is to use creative writing to promote creativity and self-expression to empower girls. By having one-on-one mentorship and holding workshops, WriteGirl is ensuring that the princesses of today are the Queens of tomorrow!
To Donate to WriteGirl go to http://www.writegirl.org/
1 comment:
Nice posting sis! You should have a few more like this. A posting on the books you recommend would be nice too (since you read like most people watch tv). Love you!
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